| Saturday, February 25, 2006 |
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If you feel like your heart has broken, you're not alone. Just about everyone experiences the type of grief we call heartbreak at one time or another - and some people seem to have their hearts broken many times throughout their lives. Sometimes it feels like all those songs about broken hearts were written just for you and your situation! Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people experience the pain of a romantic relationship that ends before they're ready. Others love someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels heartbreak when a close friend moves out of their life. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the same - whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness. Kristin, 17, went through these feelings when she and her boyfriend decided to end their relationship before they headed off to separate colleges. They both realized that a long-distance relationship probably wouldn't work out for them and they knew deep down that if their relationship was meant to be they would get together again after they graduated. But it was still hard to go through the sadness that came with ending their 2 1/2-year relationship. Although poets have written about the pain of heartbreak for thousands of years, when it's happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same. If you're recovering from a broken heart, there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help: * Share your feelings. Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust - someone who recognizes what they're going through - helps them feel better. That could mean talking over all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they heal better if they hang out and do the things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their minds off the hurt. Sometimes people who mean well but don't understand the depths of your hurt may try to cheer you up with statements like "you'll get over it" or "you'll meet someone else." These people are probably trying to help in the only way they know. But if you feel like someone can't relate to what you're going through or is dismissive of your feelings, find someone more sympathetic to talk to. * Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken, too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost. * Remember what's good about you. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to help you remember what's good about you. * Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened - working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process - it just means you should focus on other things, too. * Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing - and the heartbreak almost always heals after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbroken feeling, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Mending a broken heart can take a couple of days to many weeks - and sometimes even months. Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. The person isn't really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness. Sometimes the sadness is so deep - or lasts so long - that a person may need some extra support to deal with a broken heart. For someone who is not starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful. So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin. -Taken from Nemours Foundation. it's for future reference.. |
| Jin Han 3:27 PM |
| Tuesday, February 21, 2006 |
I just received my Iskin Evo3 for my Ipod today! Took the supplier long enough.. Been waiting for a month for this and thank goodness it was all worth it. Once I slipped the silicon skin on, it was pure beauty.   Right, to condense everything, here's a list of it's pros and cons. Pros - It looks sexy as hell. - It protects every part of the Ipod. - It's really user-friendly. - It even covers the Click Wheel. - It's sexy as hell. Cons - It's a LINT MAGNET!! - It makes the Ipod a little thicker than normal. - It's not transparent. - It's a LINT MAGNET! |
| Jin Han 11:27 PM |
| Friday, February 17, 2006 |
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Highlights of the week: Went out for lunch with Shae Nee on Thursday morning(11am). We meandered aimlessly around the area behind the Taylor's American Degree Programme Building, looking for a good place to eat. Passed a few shops and restaurants that were not particularly enticing (mostly price-wise) but finally settled for a couple of buns at a dim sum stall. Apparently we were both not very hungry but had to eat something anyway. She had a lotus bun(i think) and I had a big bun(dai bau), which by the way was delicious. Forgot to bring my digital camera so did not get to take any pictures of it but there is always another time right? After that we went to a food stall and bought some fruits(duh). That day was officially the first time I ever had fruits after lunch. Amazing. I like spending time with her hehe. Right, now for the sad stuff.  I got 22/25 for my economics quiz on Price Elasticity of Demand,Income Elasticity of Demand and Cross Elasticity of Demand! Sigh, am really disappointed because I think I could done so much better. Then again maybe I should have studied more too because let's face it, 45 minutes of studying isn't exactly called studying hard. Oh well, looks like I'm going to have to study extra hard next time, which would probably be next week because we are finishing up on Supply. My trainer also told me that I will lose a lot of muscle if I don't eat more. So I guess I'll have to make myself eat a little more protein or I'll be fat. Since I don't have any time to get something to eat on Fridays because the bus leaves at 2 and my class ends at 1.55, I decided to invest in some rather pricey goods.  Don't worry, they're not protein shakes or supplements. They're actually expensive, tasty snacks that happen to give you more carbohydrates and protein than normal meals. At rm9 a bar, I'll definitely go broke by the end of the month. The price I pay for fitness. They come in chocolate flavours(which I love!) so actually it's perfect for me. Oh yeah, I found out that my weight gloves are getting rather smelly. Lifting all those weights and all the sweat... No wonderlah. Crap, have to spend more money on getting another pair of gloves...  Oh, since both my mom and I are getting paranoid about getting robbed, kidnapped or worse, we decided to do some shopping at the local hardware store. Look what I got!  Yeah, that's right. I got pepper spray! Villains beware! I now have a defensive tool capable of blinding you for 45 minutes! Now I just have to figure out how to use it... |
| Jin Han 9:54 PM |
| Tuesday, February 14, 2006 |
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Today is valentine's day.Yes you know it, the day when love blooms from the purchases of all manner of gifts such as plushy soft toys, bouquets of roses and cartons of chocolates. Everywhere you went you would see at least ten people walking around with ridiculously large paper bags filled with oodles of flowers and whatnot. What happened to those good old fashioned personalised valentine cards? What about home baked cookies? Muffins even? Nah, not a lot of those lingering around the area, just lots of store bought stuff. Me? I just made a rather plain looking card using cardboard, pens, pencils and an eraser. Unimpressive when judged by modern standards but I figured, "Hey, since it came from my own hands it would mean more than any amount of roses right?" Don't really know how that turned out but I am hoping that it fulfilled its purposel. Not a very memorable day though since I did not get to spend more than 10 minutes with her today. What can you do when you have class in 20 minutes and enough lessons to bog down your day? Bloody cambridge a levels administration. Probably one of the few girls who can make me light up in an instant is right in front of me and I don't have time to stay with her? Geez, the world certainly is not kind indeed. A thank you and a 5 second hug later I darted off back down to campus for class. Economics was pretty boring, and so was Malaysian Studies, and Chemistry... Oh what am I saying?!? Chemistry was fun! Wasn't very focused though. My mind was somewhere else, you probably should be able to figure out where. Had a burger from Mcdonald's and went on my way back to college for more learning fun. Yay for that. Sigh, what a day. Oh, did I mention for the past week I have been on a ballad craze? They way I'm going by this time tomorrow my brain will officially be turned into mush. Can't help it I guess. How do you fall for someone in a month and think about them a LoT? Heh, it's just as well. I heard that usually girls like the bad boys but take home the nice ones, how true this is I still cannot confirm. If that were the case then the good/sweet guys that are thoughtful and such would be miserable until they reach a certain age. Quite an effective way of downgrading their spirits I think. So if people call you sweet, beware. You might actually be single until you're an adult. Heh... |
| Jin Han 5:46 PM |
| Saturday, February 11, 2006 |
Just came back from the 1 Utama Shopping Complex with a couple of cds and the intention to get myself reading novels again. Upon returning home I turned on the computer and popped the cd into the cd drive, hoping that I did not waste my money on something that I hated. Of the two cds I bought, this stood out the most. A perfect blend of instrumental, trance and orchestral music moulded into a single album, Enigma creates a world that ignites your senses, bringing something different to the plate in every song. This was produced back in 2001 so it might actually be a rather rare commodity. I was fortunate enough to chance upon this masterful work of art at Movie Magic on the lower ground floor of 1U, so if you would like to get one then it might require some perseverence. I would definitely recommend this to anyone interested but note that this might not appeal to hardcore trance addicts and technoheads. |
| Jin Han 4:54 PM |
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| Jin Han 6:07 PM |
| Wednesday, February 08, 2006 |
| She is a goddess, the manifestation of illimitable beauty and perfection; he is but a man, less than a fraction of what she represents. He worships her as a servant would his lord, but she only sees him as just that - a servant. Deep within the unfeeling exterior that he had created lay a broken heart, torn between a desire to break free of his shackles and an obligation to her. A confluence of contradictory emotions. She is unaware. She does not realise his sadness, only seeing the imperturbable figure that is faithful to the end, a person she could count on in dire times. If she were to fall, he would be there to catch her, help her back up and walk back to his place by her side. Difficult as it was to keep his underlying feelings from surfacing, he continued to play his part. A fool he was. He adores her but she does not adore him. He wants her but she does not want him. She does not perceive his feelings for her even when she can see right through him. She is unable to sense his anguish, but she does not bother trying. What is he to do? |
| Jin Han 11:29 PM |
| Sunday, February 05, 2006 |
So i went to the Hilton Hotel in Kuala Lumpur next to the Meridian yesterday night to celebrate my grandfather's birthday.I was very adamant on wearing a formal-ish shirt as I figured I would have plenty of opportunities to wear those for probably 40-50 years of my life, but ended up wearing one anyway because mom said it was a pretty opulent restaurant complete with vibrant colors and the like. Upon reaching the parking section of the hotel, a pair of security guards checked the boot of the car and under it with a mirror, though you can see the pointlessness of it all. If you wanted to bring a bomb into a hotel you might as well put it under your seat and none would be the wiser! I heard that when you are driving into Singapore customs will guide you to a ramp where they x-ray the entire car to check for explosives. Now that is impressive. We parked the car and rode up the elevator, headed up a few escalators and finally arrived at the restaurant. It was not as swank as I thought but hey, I was wearing jeans so it wasn't that bad. The ceiling was actually quite interesting as you can see. the whole circle is actually formed by the zodiac signs eg. Taurus, Libra and so on. They also had a mini zen garden right next to our room, for decorative purposes because I could hardly imagine a person sitting on top of that rock and humming to himself as he meditated.  >seriously, a zen garden? The room was almost entirely velvet, a lot like dracula's lair or something. Always remembered him as the kind who loved velvet curtains and crimson clothes. We seated ourselves around the gargantuan dinner table(which was circular) and started to order. Mom and dad were, like always, indecisive when it came to which foods to try so it took quite a while for the waiter to actually get the order processed. I got pretty bored so I snapped a few pictures.  The only light source in the room, which is also circular as you can see.  My tea glass, a stupefying work of art, mainly because the top and bottom of the glass was carved with symbols of dragons, my chinese zodiac sign hehe  That figure actually holds a tiny plate with peanuts inside. The last time we went it was a turtle.heh.  They gave us chopsticks that size to 'lou sang' as the center of the table was pretty damn far.  The first dish we were using before they changed it after the first dish. The second was far less extravagant. The food was a little above average at best and the dishes were probably bite-sized because 13 people were sharing 8 dishes, thoroughly overpriced if you ask me. However, I did find the honey roasted chicken with ginger and deep fried prawn with salty eggs absolutely delectable, though I downed them in less than two minutes. Oh well, all good things must come to an end right? The noodles we had at the end of the meal were also gratifying. Not too moist and not too dry. Then came the birthday cake oh the birthday cake! It was a tiramisu topped with green tea powder, but was no bigger than the table napkins that were alotted to us. I forgot to take a picture of that so I couldn't compare. Oh well. The evening was well spent and I enjoyed the company. My cousin also seemed to have developed an accent due to her years in an international school and she has an ipod Nano too. (p.s. she is |
| Jin Han 4:26 PM |
| Thursday, February 02, 2006 |
Right, so chinese new year is practically over for me, so here are some pictures to illustrate the the eventfulness this year. That porkish looking person on the left would be me in a really nice shirt whilst the one on the right is my aunt on my dad's side.  The canopy my parents set up due to the torrid weather Malaysia seems to be having nowadays.  The end product of my mother's hard work. Next are the close-up shots of the food!  Ah,nothing beats chrysanthemum tea and Jolly Shandy.  The 'zhai char siew' that I love so much.  Mother's curry never tasted so good.  Hokkien noodles,completely pork fat free.  Porked mixed with vegetables and capsicums.Not exactly the crunchy kind.  These are by far my favourite - chicken deep fried in a light batter.  Clockwise from top:Ketupat rice, piquant vegetables with sour sauce,roast pork and freshly sliced cucumbers.  hoohoohoo look what we have here!Dad got a lion dance troupe to grace our house.  A shot of that silly man character in lion dances,filled with extra silliness.  There's the lion trying to grab a wad of cabbage.  Who knew that lions had five fingered tongues? There were too many people to remember or even recognise so I'll just post the pictures.Of course not all of them are here. Yes I know, I do have a life.       Well, I could definitely say that this year's chinese new year was something else. For one thing keeping myself from overeating was nothing short of a challenge for me but I pulled it off. Props to me! Now I have to ponder how I'm going to go about losing the calories I gained from drinking 4-5 cans of Shandy and Coke Light. Geez... |
| Jin Han 7:37 PM |
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Jin loves brownies, cookies and cake. Jin has never been anywhere further than Australia. Jin could never stop being a sadistic, sarcastic meanie. Jin is also the opposite of everything said one line up when the need arises. Jin would rather have a desktop rather than a laptop. Jin has an obsessive, compulsive need to ramble, blabber and regurgitate all manner of nonsense. Jin hates being ignored by the people he loves. Jin hates being alone most of the time. Jin hates reflecting about his actions. It's taxing. Jin has a habit of thinking too much. Jin often doesn't see the glass as half-empty or half-full.He just sees the glass. To some, Jin is weird; to others, Jin is even weirder. Jin wants nothing more than to be happy. Rich would be a big plus though. Jin is pretty tired of referring himself in the third person's perspective. |
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